There seems to be an assumption, with some adults, that most teens are focused on their own comfort and have little concerns for the wants and needs of others. Although this is sometimes the case, I believe that for some young people, ‘the apple does not fall far from the tree’!

Parents, our children’s behaviors and attitudes are often a reflection of our own. Are they mirroring our way of treating those in the service industries; sales clerks, waitresses, nurses etc? How demanding do they see us? What do they see in us when we are cut off in traffic or tailgated? How do we behave when our spouse displeases us or does not get something done as soon as we would like them to?

The Bible tells us, “Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not walk away from that.” Is our training and example to them worthy of them learning it well? Will it help lead them to a place of joy and contentment or will they always be in search of new ways of making others be responsible for their happiness?

Our life is an open book to our kids. Let’s hope that they are reading something in us that is worthwhile…we might just be amazed to see their focus begin to change!

Karen

Good news: Teenagers found willing to help their parents. Who Woulda Thunk It?

Nine out of 10 parents swear in front of children. Potty Mouths.

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Parents who don’t pray, quite frankly, amaze me!  To go through all those years raising a child without prayer must be very difficult…to choose to run solo and try to have control of and responsibility for your child’s safety, sexual choices, education, happiness, health, emotional stability etc.must be overwhelming!…and not for me!

Being a praying parent who truly believes in answered prayer can bring peace in turmoil, calm in storms, joy in suffering and the ability to enjoy the parenting journey knowing that you are not doing this alone. To be given wisdom, guidance and strength to not give up in situations when you do not have a clue what to do is tremendous!

One of the best tools used in our family was a book called “The Power of a Praying Parent” by Stormie Omartian.  This book is a resource that if a parent committed to use regularly with a believing heart could turn a child’s heart and life around for good.

Karen

Trust!

There was a book circulating around several years back called “Emotions…can you trust them?”

I’d like to see one today entitled “Parents…can you trust them?!!”

I have hung around and worked with teens for over 20 years and it surprises me how many adults look down on them and talk so negatively about them.  In many cases you don’t have to look much further than their home addresses to see why they are behaving the way they are!

I believe that we would see a turn around with the youth of today if the following areas were considered seriously by adults. Parents need to be:

A)  Trustworthy
B)  Trusting God
C)  Trusting our kids

Do your kids trust you?  Have you given them reason to believe that you are dependable, that you keep your promises and that you are trying to be living examples to them of what you are teaching them?

How much do you try to control your kid’s lives?  Do you constantly worry about them?  Have you been passing on your own fears and insecurities to them? OR, do they see you giving them over to God’s care and trusting Him to do His work in their lives?!!

What do you do to let your teens know that you trust them?  Giving them the freedom to build your trust is so important. ( i.e. lending them the car, going away over night and leaving them at home, extending curfew, letting them have their own password on the computer etc.) It’s vitally important to let your children know that their good behavior builds your trust in them and that it CAN be restored!

So parents…can you be trusted?  It’s the question that each of your kids is silently asking every day.

Karen

Hey there..my name is Karen Brock, and I’m so glad that you are visiting The Sex Rev!

A little bit about me…

I am sometimes called the ‘Sex Lady’ because I teach an Sexual Abstinence Program in both elementry and secondary schools in the area.

I love young people and have such a heart to see them move toward an incredible future but
realize that the choices they are making now will dictate the futures that they live,
especially in regards to their sex lives.

As married parents of 3 kids, my husband and I knew that we had to be open with them about sex and issues surrounding it. Someone once said to us “Where there is silence and secrecy there is shame”.  We wanted our kids to know that in our home it was okay to talk about sex.

We also felt it necessary to let them know that we believe that sex is GREAT in the context of marriage, but outside of that it could become a source of pain instead of pleasure.

Many parents do not understand how important their role is, in their kids lives, when it comes to
sex. We must do everything in our power to love, protect and connect in a healthy, vibrant, relevant manner with our kids in order for them to hear us when it comes to their choices, especially regarding sex.

Once kids turn 15 or 16, it is time to move the focus from the rules to the relationship with them. If the relationship is not great between young people and their parents, then their peers will become the bigger influence in their lives!

The fact that you are reading this indicates your desire to be there for your kids…good for you! Moving out of a comfort zone to deal with these issues can look scary at first, but trust me, it will be worth it in the end!

Talk to you next Friday!
Karen