It seems that I am apparently quite an expressive person, especially when I am in a conversation that is uncomfortable or when I am trying to make someone understand my point of view. As a result of this, our daughter sometimes says “Mom, fix your face”!
After spending the weekend with 32 other women at a retreat these past few days, I am beginning to think that many people need to say to their parents “Fix your WORDS”
Our parents words to us, no matter what our age, have such an affect on us, for good or bad. For some, a statement made when they were very young, has stayed with them for a lifetime.
One woman told us that as an adult, her Mom told her that she is an embarrassment to her parents and another girl said her Mom told her she’d never find a man at the size she was (She proved her very wrong, by the way)
Parents, what is rewarded is reinforced, and what is reinforced is repeated. What are your kids hearing from you these days? Will it encourage them to do better or just be a discouragement to them? There is great power in your words… ‘Fix’ them now before it is too late:)
Love,
Karen